#SAVEMAYOWA

The recent successful campaign for treatment funds to assist Mayowa, a young lady currently battling Ovarian Cancer at LUTH that saw people intervene in such an overwhelming way is far beyond my imagination. I still find it totally amazing that such an  amount was raised within 2 days of Solicitation even with the present economic challenges being faced by everyone. I'm deeply touched, wowed, amazed...as in just name it! One would think with the recent happening being circulated by the media portraying us as in humane and heartless is indeed true about us. Thank you Nigerians for showing that love humanity needs to survive.

Then came the shocking revelations by people claiming the whole thing was a scam, that she was suppose to travel to Atlanta not Abu Dhabi, the actress visiting with the police, the supposed video done by the critically ill lady's family to refute the claim and  also pictures showing her receiving prayers in preparation for her travel to Abu Dhabi e.t.c. 

First, this wouldn't have been in the media if there wasn't any problem, and there are picture evidences that shows the lady is actually sick. To me it couldn't have been a scam; I think the only problem is that there was no accurate communication between the family, the actress and the public.

So many people said why do they have to ask for public fund when they had been told she wouldn't make it but I honestly do not see anything wrong in that, she's still alive and no sane person will leave a family member to die even when the hope of survival is 0.001%. Also why should they believe the doctors that couldn't even see the cancer until it got to stage IV, its just an emotional decision that had to be taken for a loved one.

On the part of the media and all donors, it is also expected of us to want accountability for the money being donated owing to how despicable and manipulative some humans can be, but our demand for accountability should also put into cognizance the sensitive nature of the issue on ground.

In fact my main concern is those hospital that kept tossing her from one end to another and couldn't even diagnose shit until it became so worse OMG! I read that Ovarian cancer is not always detected at the early stage but are there no symptoms and signs to know of the situation? Treating Ulcer instead of cancer is so..so weird. And I just can't fathom that our doctors are still not able to get it right on medical diagnosis of Ovarian cancer.

 And why do we always have to travel out to treat these deadly diseases,what is wrong with our health system, what will happen to those that couldn't afford to travel out of this country,what is our government doing to make things better and affordable for the masses.

Deductions that could have prevented all these from playing out includes

1. Communication which is very important when dealing with others (Her family should take responsibility for this)
2. Transparency is a must to be applied when dealing with public funds (Her family still failed somehow in transparency i.e when did Atlanta in the USA become Abu Dhabi in the UAE )
3. Our Reactions should always come only after a critical reasoning and re-reasoning (I think the Actress got it wrong here)
4. Fact finding Journalism  there has to be enough evidence and facts before breaking a news to the media so as not to cause confusion. Remember the media is the most powerful 21st century weapon the people have got. (LIB and bloggers alike)

My heart continues to go out to you MAYOWA and I pray the lord will give you healing and make you stand on your feet once again. As for we all, may we not experience what she's experiencing right now and may we not see pains that would be far beyond us.

Have a Blessed Friday.

Dealing With a Step Mum

The wife of one's father by a later marriage is simply the Step Mum(freedictionary). Most time people perceive them as gold diggers, cruel, wicked but some are also Nice, Good and Loving. Some view them as an opportunist especially when the husband is rich but the truth is its non of your business.

To the children with Step mum, i'm sorry to put it this way but its not in your place to fight your step mum. Don't take over your mother's battle, the problem is of your dad and mum,let them settle and figure it out between themselves.

Stand by your mum and console her when she's down, of course its not easy to share one's husband especially when you live together, be by her, pray for and with her, encourage her and make her happy.

If you must fight your step mum be ready to fight your dad too. Remember it takes two to tangle, your father and her came together mutually. Don't create enmity for yourself where there's none.

Don't see them as a threat, after all you will go your way in the future and leave them in the house.

They should not determine your peace in your fathers house, do things that makes you happy. Don't show them how pained you are because you will only let them make you more pained, when you are not okay with their actions.constructively tell them and you don't have to be arrogant.

Not all of them are wicked, not all of them are witch, not all of them are problematic. You live and let them live, give them their own space. It's your fathers house and also their Husband's house

Its never too late to make peace with your step mum,give them a benefit of doubt still.just imagine the pains and troubles you've made and think of the difference it had made, absolutely none or few.

I'm not saying there are no wicked step mom but you can play your own part well, Stay calm and determine your own peace in your own father's house.

Please share your opinion on this issue in the comment section.

IBADAN BUS(DANFO)

Look at the sitting arrangement

I'm officially omo Ibadan (By marriage). One of the means of transportation there is Bus. Long bus,Taxi(Micra) Tricycle, Bike and bus are the form of public transport used in Ibadan. They are painted in white with a twin blue strips.

These buses are one of its kind, the outer part of most is like the one used during the world war, the inside is worse because the seats are nothing to write home about, God bless your soul and sit beside the engine, your legs will possibly feel the pain and the heat. Pray rain doesn't fall because the chance that you will be wet is high especially if you are sitted beside the window and door.

Don't board when its raining

Usually, 4 people sits on the seat while the conductor sit on the engine making it tight for the passengers to stretch their legs and also the seats are always to tight. You have to alternate between resting and stretching your back.

The conductors are not as impertinent as those in Lagos, they have little or no education with their drivers so don't expect any good grammar from them.

The most interesting part is when they are climbing bumps or hills, OMG! it just move to one side as though its going to fall/pour. There engines works better than they look in most cases. They hardly shout/talk/abuse/curse when they are been hit from the back, all they do is to keep moving.

They've done a lot of welding on it, its save you don't board them when you are in your Christmas/ Party dress.

The good side of it is that it's cheaper than any other form of transportation there. However, there are few neat ones too, you might be lucky to board them.

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My experience in Idumota

Idumota is synonymous with Crowd

Went to this popular market called IDUMOTA in Lagos Island this saturday, it started as a bright new day but the ending was chaotic.

don't know the ordeal i was still going to face, was feeling cool here

We bought a lot of things and we are almost through when the rain started, we bought an overall nylon because you can't use the umbrella with the crowd, the load you carried might also not allow you and also the space in between the shops are not large. we were just buying breakable plates when the rain got intense and within 10 minutes the canal close to the shop is full.

see our load beside her and we've not even finished buying then

we proceeded to buy the kitchen gadgets and before we blinked everywhere was full of water, the Alabaru (load carrier) was able to carry the plates and we secured a place to drop the goods then went back to carry the other 2 but it was another story, the water had passed my knee, we could barely see d floor because the water is dirty and its getting late, the worst part of it is you have to climb planks that was thrown into the water so you don't fall into the gutter, once you fall into the gutter if you are not lucky its straight to the canal or somewhere else(in short that's death) i was literally floating on the water then holding the poles so as not to sink.

I couldn't just move again because i was scared so i just kept shouting. The Alabaru was able to get to the shop where we had our mopping stick and brushes but i couldn't (The guy had locked our load in the shop because he had to run for his life too). After waiting for like 20min without her in sight, i left to call the other person we went together but i had to look for another road because i just can't go through the first way we came in with( the joy of it is there are so many entrance into the place) before we came back together the lady had carried the other load with goods close to #100,000(285$) i was in shock, we went back to where we dropped the first load but she wasn't there, paced up and down inside the water back and forth twice before we saw her, she was also looking for us.

At last, we saw her and the load was intact, i couldn't thank God enough. We got back to where we kept the other item and the area boys wanted to collect money again(chaii, nothing comes for free in lagos) at last we boarded a cab and went home,we got home 9:30pm.

my tired self with a red eyes when we got home

It was such a stressful and bad day for us.

Do not go to that market when its raining, you will not find it funny with the muddy and dirty water that's all over the place

*couldn't take pictures before my phone will fall in the water(smiles)

A New Lasgidi

I'm actually not a fan of him but to be sincere i can see his good works. The best of it is the Iyana oworo park, oh my God! it has saved life, i mean the getting home late is gone, stress is reduced and what more............. please insert the rest in the comment section.

The Iyana oworo new park

If you are in Lagos and you know Third mainland bridge then you will know what i'm talking about. That bridge can be so tight, as in very terrible traffic. I can remember staying on that bridge for 2 hours with intense heat.

3rd mainland bridge traffic

So recently i went to Redemption camp  July Holyghost Service , if you've been there or you've been hooked in the traffic or probably on the road before i'm sure you can attest to the traffic on that road. There was a day i left my office 5pm and i couldn't make it to camp until 12am, the traffic is usually crazy that you might ask yourself why you didn't just sit at home and watch it via Dove Tv or Online.

This is what it use to be

But on this particular day,infact, there were three programs along the road (Holyghost service, Prayer camp, Nasfat)i left work 5pm and got to camp 8pm (twas marvelous) this has never happened(to the best of my knowledge) Iyana oworo-Alapere-Berger-Mawa-Camp was just free. Every bus stop has FRSC, LASTMA, Police officers making sure the buses were not parked on the road.It was an unbelievable experience

Thumbs up Gov Ambode

Eko oni baje ooooooooooooooooo.

My New Friend

He came and in their usual habit touched me, I shouted at him not to touch me again,the more angrier i became the more persistent he turned,then I was forced to make friend with him. Here's our conversation

Me: what's your name

He: Ibrahim

Me: Where's your mummy

He: Niger republic

Me: Where do you live

He: Pointed towards the bridge

Me: What do you want

He: Biscuit, gala,apple,pure water

His request got me laughing, he wants virtually all that was hawked.

He must have trusted me, he dropped his #10 with me to go hustle for another, he came again to drop it,another #50 and he was giving me, I added my own #50 and handed it over to him and he smiled wide.

He went and came back to say hello, I asked if he has eaten and he said no, I have food with me so I told him to go bring plate, confused and was looking at me before he gathered courage to ask how come I have food in my bag,he requested to see it and someone came to his rescue to give him a plastic bag for d food,he was glad and kept jumping.

After sometime, another girl came with him and in a short while we became friends too,seeing my phone she asked if I was snapping her and said I can snap her,then the photo shooting began,below is their pictures.

Ibrahim is a cool and friendly guy, I wish he can just go to school but he was obviously not interested.

Have you met any friendly beggar before,share ur experience with me in the comment box.

Dealing with Troublemakers

Recently something happened which brought my memory back to my secondary school days about troublemakers especially with a particular girl in mind.

A person who causes difficulties, distress, worry, etc., for others, especially one who does so habitually as a matter of malice is a troublemaker. Infact they don't care who you know until they are faced with punishments.

They are born to foster rifts, they just believe there's nothing you can do to them, they are out there just to frustrate you. They make you angry and pull words out of your mouth, they have revised response to everything you say.

Stay clear of them because most times they have a negative view of you and are only looking for your actions and words to trigger it out of them.

How to identify troublemakers

• they gossip
• they harass
• they seek attentions
• they complain a lot
• they are know it all
• they have actions, it speaks better than their voices

What to do when you are with troublemakers

• Know that they are troublemakers
• Stay clear of having problem with them
• fill your heart with positivity even towards them
• ask for the help of the holy spirit
• Exercise patience with them
• You can talk it over with them especially if you are close

Remain trouble free.

Share your experience with a troublemaker, how do we deal with them or are you one?

HAIR REVIEW

I made this hairstyle and i've been receiving a lot of compliments and how its being done but i really can't be explaining to them all so i thought of sharing how its made should in case you like to do it also

Instruments needed

1. You only need a full big attachments or 2 small attachments
2. Tonging machine and not straighteners
3. Scissors
4. Hot water
5. cutting comb and
6. hair cream

Methods/ Steps of making the hairstle

• Fold the attachment into six and cut
• Thou shall not pull it
• its a two step style, ghana weaving at the front and braids at the back
• The ending should not be weaved because it will be tonged later
• if you have a long hair after braiding 5 or 6 box, your hair should be sorted from the attachment and be folded round the braid
• Your hair is used to tie the ghana weaving in front so don't try to use blade while loosing it
• after plaiting all, scissors should be use to trim the hair so as not to be rough
• Finally, while its still wet, use a tonging machine to creat the curls

INSTRUCTION

1. Do not use blade to cut while loosing the ghana weavon because you stand a risk of cutting your hair
2. If you do have headache after hair do, please use paracetamol
3. You might not be able to put your head on the pillow

Stay beautiful.